Monday, May 30, 2016

Indeed you will marry the wrong person

A very insightful article on marriage for the young. The successful married probably understand this but perhaps could never explain it like the author of this article to the New York Times could.

Our partners are no more self-aware. Naturally, we make a stab at trying to understand them. We visit their families. We look at their photos, we meet their college friends. All this contributes to a sense that we’ve done our homework. We haven’t. Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.

Indeed you will marry the wrong person but that is the whole idea: To make it right.

When I was a young man, the Lord gave me Acts 27 which gave me the confidence to marry. It has been metaphorically relevant and useful even if it was too extreme to be real. Very good preparation overall.

Update: June 6 5:15pm

Glad to see Sunday Times has the insight to reprint this from the NYT. It had appeared there on May 30th.

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